His Needs, Her Needs.

I came across Weiling's blog and find this entry very useful for couples! So, I decided to share it in my blog. Credit goes to http://mrssuperman.wordpress.com/


Pastor’s sermon over the 3 weekends was great! His sermon was based on a book “HIS NEEDs, HER NEEDs” which i had finished reading 8 months ago. Somehow, with Pastor’s preaching and the drama team, it makes the understanding so much easier.

5 TOP NEEDs of WOMAN:
1. Affection
2. Conversation
3. Openness and Honesty
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment

5 TOP NEEDs of MAN:
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companion
3. Attractive Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration

Like what Pastor mentioned, some of the needs seem very trivial, but to the one who needs them, it’s something important. Many relationships, be it married or dating couple, broke down because of the lack of knowledge of their partner needs. In the end their other half can only get it from somebody else outside.

This is where the concept of LOVE BANK comes in. Everybody will open an account when you interact with him/her. When every couple starts courting, they will try their best to present themselves and compromises, in the end a lot of love units are deposited. Somehow as times goes by, the spark and excitement dies off, especially when both parties make no effort to keep it going.

I read another book that says Habit is behavioral patterns that become automatic and almost effortless when repeated often enough. After getting together for long, we should know what are the habits that will make deposit or withdrawal. Therefore, it’s very important to kick off those habits that make withdrawal and form those which deposit.

I think it’s really a very good sermon especially for those who have been together for a while, be it courting or married. It’s like a knowledge placed in us which we can used for life, i don’t believe in honeymoon period, the sweetness and love should be for eternal.